Divorce is a confusing time filled with untraveled paths that often seem dark, scary .... and endless. There are so many questions to answer: “How do I even begin to find an attorney?” “How will my children handle divorce?” “How will I support two households?” “Will I have to go back to work?” The questions feel infinite and often daunting to answer.
I am a Divorce and Transition Coach and I can help you break down all of your questions into manageable pieces so that you can create clarity out of the chaos of divorce. My goal is to help you work through the confusion, the uncertainty, the hurt and to come out the other end with the clarity of knowing who you are and what you want out of this next stage of your life.
I'm here to support you
Divorce creates a wellspring of emotions that can make it very difficult to think clearly when having to make life-changing decisions. Here are a few ways I can help you during this highly charged time.
Work with you in developing a plan to break the news to your children, family, and friends.
Assisting in helping you determine what is important to include in your parenting plan.
Help you manage your communications with your ex in order to not incite negative emotion and preserve your integrity and dignity.
Assist with finding solutions to minimize the impact of the divorce on your children.
Work with you to eliminate unnecessary stress and chaos that adds to the feeling of being overwhelmed.
FINANCIAL MANAGEMENT SUPPORT
Divorce can be very expensive and may change the financial quality of your life which creates additional upheaval in your already stressful life. Although I do not give financial advice, I can help to bring clarity to your financial picture by helping with the following:
Assisting you in assessing financial information to gather prior to filing for divorce.
Helping you manage the gathering of all necessary financial information requested during the divorce process.
Help you prioritize your questions and streamline your communications with your attorney so that time spent is most productive and you are not wasting money on needless billable hours.
Work with you to determine the settlement issues that are most important to you and will support your short and long-term goals.
PERSONAL WELL-BEING SUPPORT
The extreme stress that divorce puts on an individual can have a great impact on your mental and physical health. I believe that taking care of yourself mentally AND physically is important to your overall well-being. Here are some ways I help you in this area:
We work together to find ways to manage the physical manifestations of stress in ways that are meaningful to you.
Work with you to avoid leaning on unhealthy “crutches” to get you through the challenging times.
Assist you in creating boundaries when dealing with your ex-spouse.
Work with you to create effective planning tools to deal with issues related to: having to go back to work, increasing your workload, managing more or less free time, etc.
Divorce and Transition
Wherever you are on your Divorce path, from contemplation to completion and beyond, I'm here to support you through the process. During our 45 minute sessions, my goal is to make what can be a confusing, frustrating and often hurtful process more manageable by helping you focus on what you can control. For those things you can't control, I'm here to assist you in finding your center, staying true to your values, and maintaining your dignity, grace and integrity in times of high conflict and stress.
Career Development Coaching
Self-awareness is critical to understanding what personal and professional choices would be most fulfilling for you, in addition to offering the best opportunity at longevity in your chosen profession. As a YouMap® certified Coach I will provide you with a holistic assessment of what makes you, uniquely you. You will walk away with actionable guidance on how to use the knowledge you've gained about yourself in your professional and personal life. I will show you how to create a unique contribution statement that highlights what you do best and aligns with what employers, and the world, needs most.
As a trained Mastermind Facilitator I bring together small groups of individuals that have common experiences and/or goals and are wanting to achieve success in an area of their lives. Through a combination of brainstorming, education and peer accountability the Mastermind group helps each member set objectives, create a plan and most importantly accomplish their goals. Contact me for a current list of available Mastermind Groups.
Divorce and Transition Coach
In 2011 I made the hardest decision I ever had to make - to tell my husband I wanted a divorce. At that time, we had been married for a little over 11 years and had three beautiful boys ages 6, 8 and 10. I had been unhappy for a long time and as each year passed, I felt like I was losing a little part of myself.
Life felt like it was something to be tolerated rather than something to celebrate. I found myself stepping further and further away from my core values and was lacking the ability to be present with my boys. I was losing my sense of self; I wasn’t able to be the person I wanted to be, and l was unable to find any feeling of hope for the future. I knew I had to make a change.
My divorce wasn’t easy and as long as we have to co-parent together there will always be issues that rise up, stirring up emotions and creating opportunities for strife, but I don’t regret my decision to leave. I feel whole again, I found hope.
Now I wake up every day with the lure of possibility. Now I share my life with a man I adore and who makes me feel adored. Now I have the ability to be present with my boys and share in their joy, and sometimes sorrow, with a heart that is completely open to them and not burdened with my own pain. Now I have found my purpose in life and get to help other's do the same.
We all have our stories, this divorce tribe; some similar, some vastly different. Some of us chose to leave and some of us were left. Whatever your circumstance, whatever your story, there is a new path for you, and it is filled with the brightness of hope and possibility and I'm here to help you get there!
Contact me for a FREE 30 minute Discovery Coaching Session to get an understanding of your needs and how I can be of help to you. I will get back to you within 24 hours or less.
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